“Why is this taking you so long?!” Inside her head, she was screaming at her pre-schooler. Outwardly, my friend Stephanie clearly showed him her impatience. Physiology doesn’t lie.
“The shoes need to go on if we are ever going to get out the door. Why is this so hard?” That’s what she was thinking. “Come on, Will. Put on your shoes so we can go,” is what she said.
Will looks at her and doesn’t start putting on his shoes. He does the opposite. He starts taking off his socks.
And so it happens. Stephanie yells. She threatens. Will cries.
It’s so frustrating because she had been dedicated to not yelling. She wanted to be peaceful. Empathetic.
“I have all of these values. But sometimes in the moment, I have trouble living up to those values.”
Can you relate? I can. It’s hard to change behavior patterns. They are ingrained in us from childhood. (But I’m not blaming our parents. I know that my mom and dad were dealing with the same thing.)
We want to make changes, but we find we can’t. What’s the going on?Leave a comment
The sling and the ergo baby carrier were essential.
Nursing? Of course.
Wooden toys? No way was I having my little one suck on plastic.
I really wanted to get it right when I was a mom. I wanted to be always kind, calm and loving. I wanted to correct mistakes my parents made.
Of course I did.
But I had a big mis-perception. It caused a lot of struggle and suffering for me.Leave a comment
This journey of conscious mothering isn’t easy.
Most of us were raised in an authoritarian culture. This taught us:
However, living and parenting mindfully requires that we:
So, it’s not so easy.Leave a comment
Who is my unlikely yoga teacher & What is this new kind of yoga?
If you have practiced yoga with me in person or through video, you know that my style of teaching is different.
It’s not called Core-Strength vinyasa because we are working towards rock-hard abs.
Core-Strength means that each movement originates in the center of your body and with your breath.
When I discovered it, I went to a workshop given by a yoga rock star. I was skeptical.
I left totally blown away.Leave a comment
The real truth about yoga teachers (at least this one) is that we really need it.
You might be surprised to know that I’m not a naturally calm, zen person. In fact, along with a lot of great stuff, I inherited quite a temper from my parents and ancestors. I came to yoga and meditation because I really needed it.
And I still do.
Last week my 7-year old had a big emotional storm.Leave a comment