Do you ever get in a place where everything is driving you crazy?
At home, your child drives you crazy with the incessant repetition. Your partner isn’t appreciating you. At work, all you see are the inconsiderate choices of your co-workers. In your mind, all you hear are these critical thoughts.
And it feels crappy.
Your critical mind will tell you that it’s all THEIR fault – if only your child would listen…if only that co-worker would be less selfish…if only your partner would do something nice for you.
That’s the job of the critical mind. It wants to protect you, but in the process, it makes you miserable.
You may have tried to combat this critical mind internally with something like, “Stop it! You shouldn’t be so critical!”
The problem with this approach is that when you fight criticism with criticism, you are actually feeding your critical mind instead!
Okay, so what to do?
The bad news is that the critical mind is there and general cannot be zapped out of existence.
The good news is that you can absolutely turn down the volume on the critical mind. You can lessen it’s hold on you.
Mindfulness helps us to interrupt this pattern. It is the intentional placement of our attention on the thoughts, feelings, and events in the present moment with kindness and curiosity.
Curiosity is the opposite of judgement- and helps us stop criticism in it’s tracks.
What does this look like?
Then you can take this a step farther by inviting up the opposite of criticism, appreciation. What can you appreciate about yourself and the other people in this moment?
This is called “selective watering” – you are watering your good seeds, and interrupting the patterns of your negative seeds.
Now it’s your turn.
Do you have a bothersome critical mind? What helps you in those situations? Start the conversation in the comments below.
I hope that my sharing helps you. Thank you so much for reading!
With warmth & lovingkindness,
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