Hunter Clarke-Fields


When Good Moms Yell
April 26, 2017

“Isn’t yelling less damaging than hitting or spanking?”

Yelling is a natural response when your kids are rude, not listening, acting crazy or treating you poorly—or in any other situation that triggers your big feelings.


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A quick decision and 5 minutes that totally changed my day
April 5, 2017

Today I was on my regular route when I made a decision that changed the course of my day. I listened to this little voice inside of me. I went down the path to the stream and I…

…hopped on rocks.

Yup, that was me – jumping from big boulder to rock to boulder in the stream.

You may be asking, what is the point of sharing this?

The point is that I made a choice to PLAY.


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Care LESS about my kids?!?
March 30, 2017

Just yesterday I asked my client, “How would you respond if they were 20-year old exchange students?”

She was frustrated because her 5-year old twins’ potty mouth problem had reached a peak. When it came to the dinner table, it was completely unacceptable.

So what to do?


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What do children learn from punishment?
March 15, 2017

If you had told me eight years ago that I would not use punishment with my children I would have thought you were crazy. How would I have any control over my children?

I remember getting to know a new family in the neighborhood who didn’t use time-outs and I thought that was nuts. I was not going to be the kind of parent who let her children run rampant.

The funny thing is, now I don’t use punishment and haven’t for years…and my children don’t run rampant, thank you very much.

So what’s the deal?

There were two problems with my earlier ideas about punishment: (1) I didn’t have a clear idea of what punishment teaches children; and (2) I didn’t have a clear alternative model. (more…)

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Parenting lessons from a seam in the shower door
March 8, 2017

I was getting in the shower on Saturday morning when I realized that my eyes where going to this one area on the shower, looking for grime. My eyes were drawn like a magnet to this seam in the door to see if there was crud there.

Now I sound like a compulsive neat freak, which I’m really not.

Maybe it was because it was just after my morning meditation. I noticed that my eyes were drawn there out of habit. I’d been checking this spot for weeks. I had been creating a minor habit of it.

What does this have to do with parenting? (more…)

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